Some important things you should know
about domestic abuse:
There is no excuse for violence;
it's never justifiable.
Without the assistance of a
professional with specific training and experience in spousal abuse,
the abuse will probably get worse over time. (See our
information on abuser treatment for more on this.)
Most abusers cannot change
without specialized professional help, no matter what the abuser
says or promises.
Marital abuse is very damaging to
children (you can't hide it from them). Most abusers themselves grew
up in households with marital abuse. A majority of spousal abusers
also abuse their children.
Though your partner may blame the
abuse on your actions, there is actually very little the victim can
do or not do to influence the abuser's behavior.