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Answers to Frequently Asked Questions |
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Is there any help for an abuser? Will God change him? |
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We have an all-powerful God who changes lives, but He does not force anyone to do anything against their will. The abusers must be willing to take sole responsibility for their abusive actions, and to give up attitudes of privilege and abusive control over others. If abusers have the will to successfully complete a year-long domestic violence counseling program, the chances are good that they may be able to stop abusing (no guarantees, though). God's help is needed to heal underlying emotional and spiritual wounds. Abuse is sin, and repentance and full submission to God and His Word are needed. |
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Aren't I also to blame for the abuse? |
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Most abusers try to convince their victims that they cause the abuse. Studies have shown, however, that victims often have little control over the abuser's behavior. When it comes to domestic violence, it is not true that "it takes two to tango." The bottom-line is that there is never any excuse for abuse; there are always other options for resolving conflict. |
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I recently left an abusive relationship. How do I know when it's OK to go back? |
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Unless the abuser has received the right kind of professional help and has adequately proven that he will no longer abuse, the abuse will most likely resume. |
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I am afraid of my partner and don't know how to find safety for my children and myself. What can I do? |
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Call your local women's shelter or domestic violence program for advice and help. They are experts at helping women to find safety. They can help you to develop a safety plan for yourself and your children. In some cases, a court protection order can help; they can advise you about this also. If you are ever in imminent danger, call 9-1-1. If you do not have the Adobe Acrobat Reader you can download it here: http://www.adobe.com/products/acrobat/readermain.html |
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