Questions that may help you to know whether you are
experiencing psychological or emotional abuse:
Does your partner ...
or angry with you several times a week?
yell at you,
call you names, tell you there is something wrong with you, or make
comments that hurt you?
cause you to feel confused, frustrated,
upset, or on guard all the time?
criticize, blame, belittle, dominate, or threaten you?
cause you to
doubt yourself or distrust your own feelings and perceptions?
embarrass you in front of
others, perhaps even your children?
- look at you or act in ways that scare
- control what you do, who you
see or talk to, or where you go?
- stop you from seeing or talking to
friends or family?
- take your money, make you ask for
money, or refuse to give you money?
- make all the decisions?
- tell you you are a bad parent or
threaten to take away or hurt your children?
- act like the abuse is not big deal,
it's your fault, or even deny doing it?
- destroy your property or threaten to
kill your pets?
- intimidate you with guns, knives, or
other weapons? (very dangerous!)
- do things to keep you from getting
the sleep you need?
- threaten to commit suicide or say he
can't live without you? (very dangerous!)
- threaten to kill you? (very
These behaviors are not normal in a
relationship. They are unhealthy, unloving, and disrespectful.