Bible Says About
The Bible teaches that remarriage is possible after a legal and legitimate divorce. The Old Testament law concerning divorce includes guidelines for remarriage:
If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to
him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes
her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from
his house, and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife
of another man and her second husband dislikes her and writes her
a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his
house, or if he dies, then her first husband, who divorced her, is
not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That
would be detestable in the eyes of the LORD. Do not bring sin upon
the land the LORD your God is giving you as an inheritance.
scripture shows that a woman can remarry after a legitimate
divorce. In Matthew
Mark 10:4-12, Jesus clarified that divorce is legitimate only
when there has been marital unfaithfulness or hardness of heart:
"Moses permitted you to divorce your wives
because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the
beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except
for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits
adultery....Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to
whom it has been given."
19: 8, 9, 11)
They said, "Moses permitted a man to write a
certificate of divorce and send her away.
“It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote
you this law," Jesus replied. But at the beginning of
creation God 'made them male and female.
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and
be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.'
So they are no longer two, but one.
Therefore what God has joined together, let man not
they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about
this. He answered,
"Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman
commits adultery against her.
And if she divorces her husband and marries another
man, she commits adultery."
(Mark 10:4-12, NIV)
It is clear from these scriptures that marital unfaithfulness is a valid reason for divorce if the marriage cannot be reconciled, and that remarriage is permitted in such cases.
Jesus said that hardness of heart is also a valid
cause for divorce. Domestic
violence can be viewed as a type of hardness of heart, especially
when an abusive husband refuses to stop sinning against his wife
or to seek professional help.
In Malachi 2 God
condemns domestic violence and says it breaks the marriage
..the LORD is acting as the witness between you and
the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her,
though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. So
guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the
wife of your youth. “I
hate divorce,” says the LORD God of
remarriage allowed after a divorce is caused by hardness of heart
such as domestic violence, where there hasn’t been adultery?
There can be disagreement among Christians on this point:
Bible, Paul allows remarriage after an unbelieving spouse no
longer wishes to remain married to a believer.
The believing spouse is then released from his/her marriage
the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife
who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must
not divorce her. And
if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing
to live with her, she must not divorce him.
But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing
man or woman is not bound in such circumstances.
death of a spouse or ex-spouse also frees the survivor from the
marriage relationship (Romans
7:2-3), and allows remarriage.
Even were God permits remarriage, a woman leaving domestic violence also faces the question of whether remarriage is wise for her and her children during certain periods. Some women decide it is better for their children if they do not date or remarry until their children are grown. And often a time of emotional healing is necessary after leaving a relationship. Entering a new relationship might seem like a way to deal with the sorrow and loss involved with abuse and divorce, but remarrying “on the rebound” or before a woman has had time to heal emotionally could lead to even more sorrow. Desperation, loneliness, and need are not necessarily the best foundations for a new, healthy relationship. A period of singleness may be challenging, but can help us to gain perspective, get to know ourselves, and become aware of patterns that might make us vulnerable to unsafe people. It can also be a period during which God can teach us a precious trust and faith in His promises to provide for us as our loving Father and to be the Husband to women without one (Isaiah 54:5).
to Deuteronomy 24:1-4,
can a woman remarry a former husband after she has had another
marriage that has ended?
a woman decides to leave a domestic violence relationship, how
long should she wait after before remarrying?
Why? What if
she has children?